Our Lady and Sheen

Loneliness pt. 2

A continuation from my last post.

“Love!? Of course that’s the answer to my loneliness! If someone would love me, I wouldn’t be lonely! Thank you for stating the obvious, that doesn’t help.” That was my response… sort of.

Venerable Archbishop Fulton Sheen is much more wise than I am. By the time he was my age, he was a priest and was making a Eucharistic Holy Hour daily, and the School of the Eucharist is the greatest classroom on Earth. How then is love the answer to loneliness, if not in the way we think?

Sheen writes that those who feel the most lonely feel so because of “an abnormal complex to be loved.” The desire to be loved is normal for humans, but the lonely demand love, and “to demand love is to kill it.” When love decreases, loneliness increases, and the demand for love increases, which makes love decrease and a spiral is born. The wife demands more time from her husband in order to prove his love, as Sheen points out, the husband resents this demand after a while, and a marriage is ruined.

Sheen compares the abnormal desire for love that wounded men feel to the Dead Sea: “The fresh waters of the Jordan pour into it but, having no outlet, it’s waters suffer no living creatures to flourish therein. It condemns itself to sterility because it does not serve.” Similarly, “Loneliness, by a curious paradox, is begotten of the madness of the arms opened to be embraced but never extended to serve.” How true, since love is a sacrifice. The more we love, genuinely and unselfishly, the more we Love through God, the more we have love.

We can be loved by man, and we can e Loved by God; which then is stronger? The infinite Love of God, of course, is unceasing. If we love out neighbor out of Love of God, don’t we have love flowing through us? We have love straight from the source, no middleman is necessary. The next question is a simple one: “Would we rather have others love us, or have true Love?” If we would rather have others love us, over true Love, are we not showing pride? Indeed we are trying to posses others, even if we feel that it is a powerful good.

If we choose the later, true Love, we possess it as a gift from the Father so that we may give it freely. It is a transient possession, the virtue of Charity. We become a channel of true Love through our desire to love God so much that we can not help but love our neighbor. We then have the self-sacrificing love that is the grain of wheat falling on the ground; we are the father fighting for the freedom of his children; we are the mother curled around her infant to protect him from harm; and we unite ourselves with the greatest love of all, the Love that is Calvary.

Then, with that Divine Love flowing through us, how could we dare think ourselves lonely? Indeed, we have united ourselves in communion with the greatest un-lonely, the Holy Trinity.

I am on my way to my cousin’s wedding, what a great occasion for love of family. In my next post, I will try to relate how the Servant of God Fulton Sheen advises helping those who are lonely.

God love you!

September 21, 2012 - Posted by | Uncategorized | , , ,


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